Pain!

Your spouse becomes removed and struggles to get away. You cling. You plead. You moralize. You reason. Your spouse struggles harder to get away.

I got this crazy idea from a really great book by Michele Weiner-Davis called Divorce Busting.

Sometimes the craziest ideas are the best.

Make a List

Think about major conflicts you had in your marriage in the past.

Now that you have that list, make another list and try to remember what you were doing immediately before your conflict ended and you began to fall in love with each other again.